a safe place

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some wise words here from Walter Bruggemann on church being safe place for people to come with their pain and their doubts:

‘church ought to be providing a liturgical grid and a safe place inviting people to be honest about their life, because when we get honest that gives us energy for transformation.

discuss ……

finding the Kingdom in the everyday

It’s been a good weekend with quality time spent with friends and a mixture of stuff to do at the cathedral. The Gills even picked up 3 points, although the performance was pretty inept and it is crystal clear that the manager has no more ideas up his sleeve and simply needs to leave … but that’s another blog story.

The weekend has been one of those where we have been able to spend lots of time with lots of different people: drinking in the club before the match, being with friends during the match, with friends again after the match at a Chinese restaurant to celebrate Conors birthday. After Evensong this afternoon we popped down to Andrew and sarah’s for coffee … which turned out to be a bottle or 2 of red wine …. that’s a great way to let the rest of Sunday disappear.

In the cathedral itself I have been struck by the quality of our worship. The choir were brilliant as is normal, but today conversations with people seemed to show the depth of love and respect that is around the place as well. It is difficult to put into words, but I think there was something special about today.

I guess I am reflecting on how fortunate I am. It is easy to become complacent. I am part of a fantastic family and group of friends, I work in a magnificent place with an amazing job to do and I guess it is quite easy to take all these things for granted.

In my Lent reading today I read of the lost coin (Luke 15) and Maggi’s commentary on how the Kingdom of God works through the little everyday things that seem insignificant in the wider scheme of things but are personally quite important.

Today I have experienced the brilliance of the Kingdom of God in the normal everyday things of my life.

the 2 sided coin of worship and mission

Yesterday was also quite an exciting day as I had the privilege of joining with many others to welcome Peter and Michelle Guinness to St Mark’s, and to support Peter as he was inducted as priest in charge.

There were lots of people there and lots of people pretty excited by the new era that Peter and Michelle will inevitably bring with St Mark’s.

Bishop Brian preached excellently on mission and worship being two sides of the same coin. He used as his text Leviticus 23:22:

“When you harvest the crops of your land, do not harvest the grain along the edges of your fields, and do not pick up what the harvesters drop. Leave it for the poor and the foreigners living among you. I am the LORD your God.”

Bishop Brian made the point that in this book (not the first we would choose to read!!) which is all to do with ritual in worship that there is this reference to mission.  Bishop Brian challenged us to remember that worship and mission go together. They are two sides of the same coin. Our worship informs our mission and our mission informs our worship.

On a personal note I guess this is why we feel uncomfortable when we see churches with what they call wonderful worship who seem to neglect the poor and destitute on their doorstep. Worship and mission must go together as one just seems false and empty with out the other.
last night it was good to be present at the start of a new era and I look forward to seeing what happens at St mark’s over the next few years.

Days 17 and 18: crossing into another world …maybe?

Yesterday I took a day off from everything, blogging as well it seems. After an easy morning I set off downtown with no plan other than to wander, watch people, drink coffee, eat food and drink some beer.

My wanderings took me into various conversations with some people. Some people sitting on the street, some people campaigning on an anti-Obama campaign, some people serving in various shops. I came across some quite interesting people who shared parts of their story, and they seemed interested in mine being from England. I spent some time wandering around Pike Place and drinking coffee here and there.I ended up paying a return visit to Kells, watched some football with a beer or two before returning (after a good Ardbeg)  via a good bus transport system to the hermitage where I live.

Today it was an early start for a Sunday as I was collected and taken to St John the Baptist Church in West Seattle, where I was invited to share what I do in Rochester and answer a number of questions. In some ways it was like crossing into another world, and it some ways not (if that makes any sense at all!?) The service was fairly familiar as some of the liturgy was similar, although I have noticed a great use of the Nicene Creed here, but a version that omits the filioque clause. It was quite odd at first to see it like this when we visited the Urban Life Church and I must admit that I added it myself this morning as it is something that I feel should be there. There’s a comment that can ignite a few centuries of argument! For me, this morning, to not say those words ‘who proceeds from the Father and The Son’ seemed to hold a sense of incompleteness.

I have noticed other differences between the CofE and the Episcopal church, some that I consider good: such as the permanent diaconate; some that I don’t like: such as the omission of the filioque clause; and some that I wonder about: such as higher stipends (I discovered last week that ordained people here have a stipend just over double that given in England) as I wonder what message this gives about how church uses money. Although… if there are ever a shortage of priests here it makes a move look attractive!

All these things are interesting to reflect upon – the differences between culture not just across the Atlantic but within the US itself. No doubt my last few days here will give more time to reflect and engage a little more before I return home.

This evening I will attend the COTA Eucharist, which will be my last service here, at least for this trip.

exploring the acceptance

I had a day free until the evening yesterday and so decided to hop on a bus and go ‘downtown’. Inspired by Stephen Fry on a program I forget the name of last year and his love of Pike Place Market I was determined to make a visit there to start with. I loved it and ending up wandering for hours, taking photos, having lunch which was my first try of Clam Chowder (wonderful!!). I even managed to have a coffee in the original first ever Starbucks.

I loved the market because of its calm bustle and diversity. I ended up taking quite a lot of photos which are all posted on my Flikr site. The creativity and diversity of the market in some ways sum up what Seattle seems to be about – a city that likes to be creative and encourage creativity in others.

For me, it was exciting to see such a colourful array of stalls and wares sprawling into one another. Artist, tradespeople, sellers, buyers all interacting together in a lovely mutual respect. Young and old together supporting and encouraging each other. The atmosphere of the place is hard to describe; but there is something ‘of the spirit’ around the attitude of this place. There is something about the vibe and the decor that clearly adds to this atmosphere. There is also something about the attitude of the stall holders. They are happy and seem to accept that some people come to buy, and others come with cameras maybe to buy but primarily because it is a bit of a tourist draw. (Yesterday I went to take photos and wander, while next time I will be going to purchase gifts to take home).

That acceptance is, it strikes me, something that has been lost by some in established, or inherited, church. There is a primary reason for the market (to make money) and there is a primary reason for the church (although I am not sure what that might be) and yet people interact with both the market and the church for a variety of reasons. They come because they are drawn, but are not necessarily there for the same reasons we are, and may not be anything like the primary reason above.

That acceptance of the market needs somehow to be embraced by church. A church where all can come and go, be accepted, explore, discover, ask, challenge and interact without expectation is something I want to be involved with.

thermometer vs thermostat

It’s cold outside, and it’s very white. It looks beautiful. I love snow, but I must admit I am getting a bit bored of this now as de-icing car doors to get in and scrape the inside of the windscreen is becoming monotonous. I love plying in the snow, but I also love my role in Rochester and after being away for a week over Christmas, and being away for 3 weeks a week from today while in Seattle I want to be able to get in to Rochester.

So – I’m going to reflect on something different, but related. I was thinking about temperature and thermostats the other day because the heating had broken down in the house of a colleague. The thermostat had stopped working properly. I got to thinking about the difference between thermostats and thermometers. Thermometers simply record the temperature, while the thermostat controls and influences the temperature. By sheer accident I came across this quote from Martin Luther King speaking of the early church:

The church was not merely a thermometer that recorded the ideas and principles of popular opinion; it was a thermostat that transformed the mores of society.

That has challenged me in my thinking and forces me to ask – ‘am I merely a thermometer that refects the status quo, or am I a thermostat that looks to make a transforming difference within society?’

I’m not sure I want to be a ‘history maker’ as Delirious sing, as that sounds full of self importance to me, but I do wish to see transformation both in my life and in the lives of those I spend time with.

As I was having these thoughts I discovered that the Epistle reading for the 8am BCP Eucharist which I am responsible for on Sunday morning is Romans 12:1-5 …. where Paul talks of transformation by the renewing of the mind …. a bit like being a thermostat. I think I may have my homily sorted for Sunday morning!

the cafe of peace

We have had an excellent time in Cornwall staying with Andrew and Sarah in Porth. While there we had lunch in Cafe Irie which was a wonderfully beautiful place. I would say this was a highlight of the short trip, but that would imply there were lowlights … and the whole time was fantastic.

Cafe Irie, though, is a special place that I would love to visit again. A cafe with great staff, good atmosphere, great drinks (Banana and Peanut butter smoothies which just have to be tried because they are amazing!!!) Irie itself means ”to be at total peace with your current state of being’

I was not there long before I said ‘this is what I think church should be like’. There was a strong community feel about the place. People had opportunity to participate or just eat and drink. Board games were available to play, as was a piano with a note saying play us a tune if you’d like to. The decor of sofas and drapes gives a wonderful relaxed feel and the interesting collection of local art brings things off to a tee and brings a smile to your face. There was a certain individuality about the menu which I think invited people to be creative and try things anew …. in a way it was some kind of implicit challenge to be yourself, the person you were always meant to be; and I think this has something of what church should encourage.

Church … a place where you can be, and are allowed to be, at total peace with your current state of being. By that I don’t mean we become complacent. Nor do I mean that we are refusing to change … but that I have a dream of church being a place where we are at total peace with who we are because we are able to say we are totally at ease with what God is doing within us and with integrity say we are allowing God to work within us and allowing God to be God.

Shoplifting

It seems the press have, yet again, taken a person’s words totally out of context to try and blow something that is not there into a major issue –  in this case it is the turn of  Father Tim Jones in York Diocese who, inn his sermon last week, suggested those who are the most vulnerable and forgotten and let down in our society might consdier shop lifting from large national businesses.

Before you shout angrily read Father Tim’s full sermon here and then make your minds up about what he is saying. Thanks Alice for linking to this.

RGS carols

I have just returned home from the privileged position of being the clergy person present at the Carol Service in the cathedral for Rochester Grammar for Girls. Lots of people said thanks you, but I merely prayed at the start and gave a blessing at the end … the students did all the hard work!

The service was beautiful and the students were a real credit to their staff, their parents and most of all to themselves. It was great seeing some friends there from Sarah’s youth group of the past as well as seeing my number one neice being the outstanding young person she is (and makes a fantastic head girl as well!)

Nights like this evening are a highlight of my life as a priest. A time when we can work with people as they look to celebrate Christmas and be available s they seek to make some sense of the Christmas story … which as I have said before is quite a strange and incomprehensible story.  It was also good because I got to see my niece  Rach …  who if I have not said so before I am mega mega proud of!

All are welcome here!

I realise my blog reflections are falling behind – I am reflecting on what is happening and wondering a lot, but I seem to be low on energy as it comes towards the end of the day to actually start to get things down in written form so that I can reflect further.

Yesterday was an amazing day at the cathedral. In the afternoon I ‘led’ the Medway Primary Schools Carol service – well one of them as there are 4 this week! The experience was a great joy because the excitement and wonder on the faces of the children was simply amazing as they gazed around this massive space (which we take for granted) in which they were expected to speak and sing. I hope I was able to welcome and put parents and visitors at ease – my few mistakes, such as forgetting to pray (what a poor priest I am!!!) all seemed to help relax the atmosphere a little. The service had a great feel to it and people seemed comfortable and I felt excited by this as many of those present would not normally visit a church let alone a cathedral. People felt included and welcome which I consider to be very important.

In the evening I was part of the World Aids Day service which was again a massive privilege and a very very moving experience. During the playing of certain pieces of music and lighting of candles in memory of those who had died or were bereaved due to HIV/AIDS it was hard to keep back the tears and at one point I failed, or maybe it was a success (?), as I was reminded of a lost friend.

The service was very much about people being welcome in the cathedral. For lots of reasons many who were there that evening, whether that be due to their sexuality or their state of health or whatever, do not normally feel welcome in church. As I reflect on the service I think my tears were not just for my lost friend, but were also just as much for my fellow brother and sisters who were sitting ‘uncomfortably’ in the chairs because of experiencing an unwelcome attitude in church. As I write, the thought of people rejected by Christians and/or because of their sexuality brings tears of sadness and anger to my eyes.

I just wish people could open their eyes. Last night I spoke with a couple. These 2 men shared how they were there to remember friends who had died from AIDS. As we chatted the love these two guys had for each other was amazingly obvious. It was obvious in their look and treatment of each other and I remember wishing that people who find this difficult to comprehend could just be there and see this clearly for themselves.

The love was real, the love was beautiful and this love had Christ at the centre – how can this be viewed as so wrong by some people?

As I drove away from the cathedral that night I became excited again – my experience had been one of welcoming in those that usually feel very excluded and on the outside.

My prayer is that the warmth of Christ that they experienced that day will draw them back to God, somehow, someway and somehow.
Amen