stereotypes

The question, then, is why do the deaths of only some people from obscure diseases cause us to panic? And how can we be so unfeeling when we have the power to save the lives of millions by relatively simple, inexpensive precautions and treatments? The answer possibly lies in the profound hold that stereotypes have over our assessment of threats and our ability to empathise with others. Recent psychological research, including the mapping of brain activity, has established that stereotypes have a very powerful hold over us.

Interesting to see stereotypes and the efffects of stereotyping in blogs today. Jon’s cartoon over at ASBO Jesus and John Watson’s article pointed to by Hold this space cause us think what real effects stereotypes can have on how we react.

The article makes interesting reading and is a good topic for discussion.

screen illusion

I had a good day visiting some of my old haunts in London today. Wednesday is offically a study day which I did on the train and in the morning in the British Library before disappearing to the sacred cafe to study some more..

Due to all the stuff that has been happening recently I really needed opportunity to talk with a trusted ordained friend who could help with some objective reflection from an understanding from knowing the kind of work and me. It was great to meet up with Jeremy and we enjoyed lunch together. Thanks my friend!

After lunch I drifted towards the Southbank via the Regent Street Apple store where I made a couple of small purchases with the aim of helping my back while working on my laptop. I got a pretty cool stand and wireless keyboard from birthday present money. I can feel the benefits already as I type on the new keyboard.

While sitting outside the BFI with a drink I studied some more before watching people ambling or racing along the riverside. It’s always fascinating to sit and watch the different behaviours of different people. Some rushing, some loitering, some enjoying the sun, others reading, still others chatting. Everyone was seemingly doing something different.

But … I noticed today one universal behaviour. Every few minutes, or seconds in some cases, people were checking their mobile phones. The phones were not on silent but it was as if people were concerned that they were missing messages. I’m convinced that some were willing text messages to appear.

It seems to have become a habit and I thought this when my daughter challenged me only the other day when we were out together. ‘Why did you get your mobile out to check it dad?’ ‘Good question … errr I dunno!’

We are supposedly very social creatures, and maybe in our personal isolations that we create when we are in places like London we have a secret fear that these isolations may become permanent. Do we live in fear of being cut off? Of missing the latest up to date message?

As an aside more and more people seem to be joining Twitter. I left it a few weeks ago because I just did not get it. I didn’t really want to know what people were doing every minute of their lives whether it was baking cakes or reading shiny vampire novels! Saying that, I feel a certain pressure to resurrect my twitter account!

I wonder whether texts, facebook, twitter etc. may draw us into an illusion that we are communicating with each other, that we are in community with each other and that we are not alone. If gives us a fairly attractive illusion of personal interaction. Now I do facebook and I ‘get’ facebook and I do feel very connected through it. But because of facebbook updates I know what is happening in my friends lives, and that surely must be a good thing!

But …what I have noticed is that and I am now a lot less less inclined to ring a person or visit them to catch up with some people. A few years ago I might have done, now I look for the updated status. It’s possible to make comments, but once a few people have congratulated, or sent concerns, offers of help etc. it does seem quite an empty thing to do to offer what others already have.

Weirdly, the more connected we feel through such applications, the more isolated we actually are as we hide behind our screens of various sizes. We think we are living together when in actual fact we are being sucked into our screens.

And what am I doing …. sharing this with you through my blog, from behind my screen, but at least it is safe here ….

could it be true?


I saw this place being decorated today ready to be opened on May 1st.
Could it be true …. a real coffee shop in Rochester?
I’m looking forward to checking this out!

answers vs presence

‘God himself does not give answers.
He gives himself.’
Frederick Buechner

I try to use a short reading from Listening to Your life as my final reading after Compline before going to bed. I like to mull the reading over as I brush my teeth and settle down to sleep, sleep on what I have read and reflect on it throughout the next day.

Today I remembered that I always thought being a witness, ‘doing’ mission, was about answering questions and giving answers that made sense. That is essentially what apologetics is all about. I am not knocking that.

I have noticed too, though, that in my waiting in spaces and being available for people I am seeing that just being present is sometimes what is needed.

I remembered this quote of John Taylors:

‘The Christian who stands in that world in the name of Christ, has nothing to offer unless he offers to be present, really and totally present, really and totally in the present. The failure of so many professional Christians has been that they are ‘not all there!’
Primal Vision SCM 1963 p.136

It seems to be that people are used to people not having time for each other. To share Christ’s love, to give a sense of the Kingdom here on earth we need to be really and totally present, which I think means giving time, giving space and giving self.

The journey starts here

I am excited! Today has been an exciting day. Today we had the first gathering at our house of a group of people that, I hope and pray, will become a new Christian community, or fresh expression of church, or emerging church, or whatever terminology we may wish to use.

Today we met to eat together and to chat together. There were 13 of us in total, which included 6 children, and we chatted about what we felt was important if we were to learn as church and grow in community. Inclusivity was near the top of the list, with the children being able to be included or feel able to opt out out if they wished. Being at a home, rather than building or space, makes this a lot easier.

As we chatted we started to imagine what the community could start to look like, discussion and sharing ideas, people bringing worship activities with them, eating together so we get to know each other as central to what we do. We agreed to try and meet monthly to start with but acknowledge that belonging to the community did not depend on attendance alone.

It was amazing to hear of peoples dreams for what we could be doing. I am totally amazed by the whole experience. I am in awe of how God has brought us all together and the real sense of respect and excitement that was evident in our garden this afternoon.

The journey starts here! …. the really exciting thing is that none of us know where the road is leading. As in the picture, we cannot even see to far along the road as there is a ‘holy mist’ out there that we need to walk into. As we journey together we will learn more and understand more and maybe more things will start to make sense.

As for now …. we just walk forward slowly together.

If this story is all new to you and you want to know the background, you can read more about this at a previous post here.

MBS again

We are approaching one of my favourite events of the year, the London Mind Body Spirit Festival.

Again this year I will be helping out on Dekhomai. If you don’t know what I am on about then go check out the Dekhomai website to learn some more.

I love this event. The chance to pray with people and the privilege of being with people, many of whom are searching, who have a great expectancy and desire for something to happen. I love seeing what God does through simple acts of conversation and touch.

Brick Lane

Today I met up with Richard for a catch up and to chat about the role I am still doing for a day a month with YFC. It was great to meet up and we met in a cool coffee bar just off Brick Lane called Nude Espresso. I love these places where you can chill, have a drink, hang around and feel no pressure to move on. I want church to feel that comfortable, inclusive and welcoming. Free wifi as well is an added bonus (I want church to have that as well!) – but the best bit was that the coffee was decent coffee (yes … church should have that too!) …. it reminded how long it has been since I have had a proper decent coffee!

YFC is entering exciting and challenging times with a new National Director and a forecast drop in income due to the current financial situation – so if you have any spare dosh pass it their was as they do a superb job – and NO I am not biased at all.

I have one regret though – and that is that I did not have enough time. It’s been years since I’ve been to the Brick lane area and I had forgotten the real appeal of the place to me. It reminds me so much of my teenage holidays spent wandering the Souqs and streets of Qatar while my step fatehr worked there.

As soon as I got out of my car I was hungry for a curry and so here is an appeal – who would like to meet up in Brick lane over the next month or so for a decent meal?

The worship leader song


This really made me laugh and a big thanks to Ian for posting it over on YouthBlog

shiny armour

An interesting lent time of more personal reflection and less blogging has meant that getting back into blogging has taken me a while. No doubt, like all habits it will not take me long before I start to think again how I had trouble writing and whether I should spend more time reflecting. For me, reflection involved thinking aloud. So this is my thinking aloud space.

today has been an interesting day. I have not been to Wetherpoons and other places for 9 days. The thought of going today totally and thoroughly terrified me. I woke this morning and was very quiet. I did not really want to engage with people before Matins and I knew why. I was totally riddles with fear and I can think of no logical reason why I should be scared of returning to a place where I am quite regularly welcomed in a variety of ways.

The lectionary Bible readings for this morning cut right to the core of my fear and how I was thinking today. The first reading was from the first chapter of Joshua and I heard these words from God to Joshua: ‘I hereby command you: Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.’ I must admit that made me smile a bit sarcastically inside with a ‘yeh I know; that’s ok for you to say but how do I go boldly when I feel like this?!’

God answered in the second reading from Ephesians 6: ‘Therefore take up the whole armour of God, so that you may be able to withstand on that evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. Stand therefore, and fasten the belt of truth around your waist, and put on the breastplate of righteousness. As shoes for your feet put on whatever will make you ready to proclaim the gospel of peace. With all of these, take the shield of faith, with which you will be able to quench all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Pray in the Spirit at all times in every prayer and supplication.’

That may sound obvious to most people, and it does to me – but doing this all the time and having to constantly walk into places where I have no real right or purpose to be can be flipping scarey.

After Matins today Wendy was kind enough to meet me and we prayer walked together. later in the day I had a very welcome call from darren and we met up for a drink and lunch in ‘Spoons. On this particular day this helped me put on, and keep on, the armour. Keeping the armour on enabled me ‘to be courageous knowing God was with me’!

I also just had a funny thought – I guess in some way the guy I saw dressed as St George in his shiny armour could well have been another clue from God – well I missed that till now!

Over these next few weeks – if you have a mo, please hold me in your prayers as I seek to link again, and again and again with people who need to see something of the love and acceptance of their God.

St georges day

There are a lot of flags of St George around today in Rochester. I even walked down the road with St George himself … well someone dressed as him!

On my return from my ‘daily rounds’ I found an interesting article, which ends with this comment from Nick Page:

For all that, he’s nothing to do with England at all. But maybe that’s the point. Like so many things, St George shows the English talent for taking something strange, something undeniably foreign, and weaving it into their daily life. St George is the saint version of Chicken Tikka Masala: foreign in origin, but oh so magically English.

You can read the whole thing here