I’m quite the Mr. Annoyed from Kent today!
The family (Sarah’s car) is a 3 year old Kia Sedona which we were able to buy from new.
The car, in 3 years has done around 20 000 miles which is very little.
Last week the Sedona stopped starting and the started motor needs replacing, and we are only 5 weeks out of the 3 year warranty.
Kia said they MIGHT be able to help – but today they have decided not to!
Apparantly, we got the car serviced a little too late on each occassion: the 10 000mile / 12 months service and the was missed by a few weeks – but the mileage was not exceeded at all. We had the car serviced within its 10 000 mile boundaries on each occasion!
But … this is immaterial – the starter motor should last well beyond 20 000 miles.
I suggested we pay labour and they pay for the part – but the big rich company does not want to help its customer.
Kia want us to pay £300 for an item that was obviously not up to scratch when we bought our brand new car.
That does not seem fair does it!
Kia’s strap line is ‘the power to surprise’ – their greed and lack of customer interest has certainly been a surprise today!
So … if I was you – I wouldn’t buy from Kia!
A reflection from my silence
Empty room.
Silence.
Just a solitary gentle thump
of a heart realising
that it is beating
into the presence of its creator.
The Creator.
The heartbeat of me
daring to dance with
the heartbeat of God.
Too often an impersonal pogo
but now an intimate waltz
in the space we have created.
Two becoming one
realising as they beat
they are made to dance together.
Shhhhhhhhhh
It’s another SEITE weekend, which comes a little close to the week away with YFC, and so the children are rightly complaining.
I’m off to the Emmaus Centre at West Wickham and we will be in silence for most of the time.
I like, enjoy and ‘do’ silence, but at the moment I am not really in a silent mood, so I need to focus and so will be using the 50 minute drive to attempt to focus.
It will be good to see every one else. Be quite nice to talk to them too!
Hope you have a good weekend!
We deserve more!
I received this update from my friend Andrea. The email copied below makes shocking reading. I find it quite hard to believe this is even being contemplated! What is happening is quite sick as well as being unbelievable. It outlines how 2 laws are passing through parliament: one to allow researchers to mix human sperm with animal eggs or animal sperm with human eggs, the other to allow the creation of children as tissue donors for others!
To my mind this seems to be to be heavily crossing ethical boundaries irrespective of religion persuasion. The creation of animal-human hybrids has no purpose and pushes beyond the boundary of what is acceptable. The creation of a life just to supply organs for others totally disregards the dignity of individual human life.
This is worth making a stand on. We need to campaign for the respect and protection of the unique dignity of humanity.
The update from LCF:
On Tuesday 15th January the House of Lords voted against on a ban on the creation of animal-human hybrids for research purposes. A proposed ban on embryo selection for ‘saviour siblings’ was also lost. Further issues, including the child’s need for a father and abortion, are due to be debated and voted upon in the Lords on Monday 21st January. Then the amended Bill will have its 3rd Reading before being sent to the Commons for further debate.
If the Bill is not amended in the Commons it will become law that embryonic stem cell researchers will be allowed to mix animal sperm with human eggs or human sperm with animal eggs, in order to create a hybrid embryo. This embryo can be experimented upon and then must be destroyed within 14 days. The UK is alone amongst Western democracies in allowing such research to take place. This legislation, which holds many other worrying provisions besides hybrids, is attacking the very core of who we are as a society, what we value as human beings, how we view the unique dignity of humanity and the lengths we are prepared to go to in perverting nature for our own selfish and often misguided desires.
If the nation is still capable of being shocked, then this Bill – if its contents were more widely known and understood – would certainly do just that. It is the church’s responsibility to speak up for God’s intention for His creation, and in the absence of a wider understanding of the Bill it falls to the church to speak on behalf the nation, to act as lookouts in the watch tower warning of the approaching dangers. Please continue to pray and tell your friends about this Bill, and read on to find out what further action can be taken…
To read the debate in full, click the link here
Animal Human Hybrid Embryo vote
Lord Alton’s proposed amendment to the Bill that would have banned the creation of animal-human hybrid embryos was defeated in the House of Lords last night by 96 to 268. These hybrid embryos are now referred to in the Bill as ‘human admixed embryos’ due to a Government amendment.
Several peers spoke in favour of a ban, arguing that such research was both unnecessary and crossed an ethical boundary.
Lord Alton stated “As Parliament is dazzled with misleading claims about therapies and cures, there have been none anywhere in the world… If we permit the creation of these predominantly human interspecies embryos and full hybrids, we will be crossing an important ethical line—crossing human and animal. But for what? For the sake of a technology that we know will not be the future.”
Lord Tebbit argued “Once we get into the business of creating entities which are halfway, or somewhere along that spectrum, between animal and human, we have a deep ethical dilemma… I am also worried about the attitude of the scientific community which, while it is always willing to accept that there should be limits placed on it on ethical grounds, always seems to assume that the limits should be somewhere just beyond what is scientifically possible and what it wants to do and those limits keep moving.”
“The matters we are discussing are more of ethics than of technology. Because it is scientifically possible to do something does not mean it should be done. Because it might bring great benefit to particular people does not mean that it should be done. If we accept arguments of that kind, we are essentially accepting the argument that the end justifies the means.”
To view the part of the debate covering hybrid embryos, click here and scroll down to Column 1202, Lord Alton
To see how each Peer voted, click here and scroll down to Division Number 1
BBC news: ‘Embryos challenge fails in Lords’
Embryo selection for ‘saviour sibling’ vote
Lady O’Cathain’s amendment to ban embryo selection for saviour siblings was sadly also defeated by a vote of 62 to 180. This practice involves destroying healthy embryos because they do not match the tissue type of an existing sick child in the family, and implanting a matching embryo (if there is one) in order to create a child who can provide healthy spare part tissue for the existing child.
In moving her amendment Lady O’Cathain stated: “First, there is the question of potential harms to the parties involved, most obviously the harm inflicted by the destruction of unsuitable embryos. Secondly, at the very centre of our ethical thought—both religious and secular, deriving from philosophy as well as tradition—lies the principle that one may not degrade an individual human life by treating it as an instrument for the benefit of others rather than as something to be regarded and respected in its own right. If we deviate from that principle, we have no fixed grounds on which to stand in resistance to other claims to create and manipulate human life for various beneficial ends.”
“The designed child, for the duration of its life, will be witness to the intention of the designers and will always be vulnerable, both physically and psychologically, to further demands on its body. To manufacture a person in this way is to offend against the respect that is due to the integrity of that person, no matter how compelling the goal of trying to cure. I am therefore convinced that the right decision has to be total opposition to the deliberate creation of children as tissue donors for others.”
Lord Patten argued that “Children are children and not organ banks”, and Lord Winston warned “There is a real risk that children might be used, and therefore abused, with this technology, so we must consider this very carefully.”
To view the part of the debate covering ‘saviour siblings’, click here and scroll down to Column 1267, Baroness O’Cathain
To see how each Peer voted, click here and scroll down to Division Number 2
Monday, 21st Jan: votes on fathers and abortion
The House of Lords will continue to debate the Bill on Monday 21st January, when they will be voting on the ‘need for a father’ in IVF treatment and an amendment on abortion for disability. Lady Masham, who is disabled herself, laid the abortion amendment.
Currently the law permits abortion up to the point of birth if a child is diagnosed as disabled. This has been the point of some controversy in the past, as it has allowed the late abortion of foetuses for such minor conditions as a cleft palate (Joanna Jepson case). It is also argued by many disability rights groups that the law is discriminatory and eugenicist. Lady Masham’s amendment proposes that abortion on the grounds of disability be repealed and therefore brought into line with the rest of the abortion law. The deadline for all amendments to the Bill is tomorrow and currently Lady Masham’s amendment is the only abortion amendment that has been laid in the House of Lords.
You can still write to the Lords before Monday about fathers and abortion, and encouraging them to attend the votes.
Funny what you remember
I have had a number of facebook messages, texts and emails today from ‘friends’ asking me if I feel old! The occasion being that tom was 14 today.
At stages throughout the day I have reflected on what has happened over the last 14 years. The mistakes I have made, and continue to make, as a father were uppermost in my mind. The joy I experience as a father were close behind, as was the real heart-felt wish to be able to turn back time or at least slow it down a bit as the last 14 years have zipped away! I guess the right thing to do i look back and use what you see to inform how you carry on moving with time.
I end the day reflected on the 14 years of joy I have received from being father to Tom. (Beth and Jo have given me joy too but essentially this is Tom’s day).
My mind easily goes back to early Sunday evening 14 years ago when I held the little bundle that was to be Tom in one arm. It hardly seems possible. I remember all the experiences from that one day 14 years ago as clear as day, and yet I can forget stuff from yesterday.
I remember the walking around the ward in the Bristol Royal Infirmary with Sarah.
I remember the pain and joy of labour (which I found quite easy to cope with!).
I remember the waiting, so much waiting.
I remember the phonecalls from one particular young person in our youth group eager for news.
I remember the joy of seeing Tom for the first time and sharing our ‘new creation’ with Sarah.
I remember the fear when Sarah was taken off for a bath and I was left alone, in this very warm deliver suite, with my new born son.
I remember the words I said to Tom as he gazed into nowhere as he adjusted to life outside the womb.
I remember thanking God for this miracle of life.
I remember the joy in the voices of grandparents as I shared over the phone.
I remember it all.
How do you feed motivation?
I had a few meetings in London today but had three particular highlights.
I experienced the good side of facebook, which we used earlier in the week to enable me to meet up with Mark, my best man, for lunch at The Chandos. I haven’t seen Mark in years and it was great to catch up over a couple of beers and lunch. Between meetings I managed to pop into the Louise Bourgeois exhibition and I ended the day with a ‘swift half’ with Jeremy before catching th train back to Medway.
I enjoyed my time to wander through the Louise Bourgeois exhibition at the Tate Modern. I find some of her work quite sinister, but it is amazing to enter into the dark sinister-ness of her pieces. On one of her works she had written the following:
‘It is not so much where the motivation comes from but rather how it manages to survive‘
As I traveled home, I mulled over question after question, but came up with very few answers…
As I think to developing something new in September I wonder how I will enable my motivation, and the motivation of other, to survive?
How do you feed motivation so that it stays with you?
What does motivation need to survive?
What marks out a ministry of motivation?
How does God motivate?
How did Jesus stay motivated in the gospels?
I feel an essay coming on!
God in the darkness
Today I traveled to the Franciscan Friars house in Canterbury to meet up with Brother Colin.
For the next year Brother Colin, a wonderful Franciscan Friar, is going to be my spiritual director. If we both believe its working after the year we will agree to continue.
This morning Brother Colin got me thinking in a number of ways but one in particular followed our discussion of morning and evening prayer. For many years now I have been following and using the daily office from the Northumbria Community. For the last few months, in line with requirements of ordination, i have been using Common Worship for morning prayer. I can’t pretend to be totally comfortable with this as it is over wordy (in my humble opinion) and I resonate far more with the Northumbria liturgy.
As we discussed this Br Colin reminded me of the daily cycle. We know that God’s people saw the day starting at sundown. I was aware of this , but not really fully thought through what this meant.
If the start of the day is when darkness starts to descend, and God created that day, and lives within that day he created, then God is in the darkness as well as the light. It’s easy to think of ‘other powers’ having some rule over the night, or subconsciously thinking God is not in the darkness. Part of Israeli faith, and the first century faith of Jesus, saw very much that God was everywhere, including the darkness.
That brief conversation has opened up a whole new dimension of God for me. I’m now wondering how you recognise God in the darkness!
Close Guantánamo
While away, I ‘missed’ the 6th anniversary of the opening of the prison camp at Guantánamo Bay. Surprisingly, or not, I did not see it covered in the press.
Just the reading of this timeline of events is enough to make you angry and feel sick at the treatment of fellow human beings. Stuff such as Bush signing memos that allow the ignoring of Article 3 of the Geneva Convention. Article 3 requires fair trial standards and prohibits torture, cruelty, and ‘outrages upon personal dignity, in particular humiliating and degrading treatment.’
775 people have been held in Guantánamo since Jan 11th 2002
In those 6 years not one single person has been put on trial
11 people were put on military trial, which was then ruled unlawful by the US Supreme Court.
These men are sons, husbands, fathers, brothers.
They have daughters, sons, wives, mother, fathers
they have been imprisoned for no crime, with no access to their families, and with no hope of a change in their circumstances.
They have been deprived of the very freedom that the west, and particularly the US, pride themselves on.
Deprived for 6 years!
That’s 2191 days!
I can’t imagine the pain of not seeing my wife or children for 6 years. Not being able to hug them, hold them, laugh with them, cry with them. It’s an unbearable pain even without the torture that we know is happening inside!
This is inhumane
this is unjust
and it must end now
we need to treat our fellow humans with dignity
there is NO EXCUSE for what is happening in this camp.
Please visit the Amnesty space here and join us in attempting to see justice done – it’s a Kingdom thing! Justice is a God thing!
dress time
I had the pleasure of leading worship at St. Mary Magdalene in Gillingham this morning.
The service was more structured and more liturgical than what I am used to, but the structure seemed to allow God to work in a way that I was not expecting. It was a refreshing experience.
It’s always quite nerve wracking leading worship in a new place. Today this was made more nervy as this service required me to borrow some robes (thanks Ernie!) and for the first time I led a service ‘robed’. This felt like quite an odd experience, although not as odd or as uncomfortable as I had thought it would be.
For the last few years while training, robing has been a bit of an issue for me. As I have been ministering for quite a while I feel quite strongly about identifying with those that I am working with, rather than giving myself a title and dressing differently to imply some form of superiority. There is, however, something about hiding ourselves to allow people to worship.
A while ago in discussion with Suzanne, the priest of St Mary’s, she spoke of symbolically ‘putting on God’ as she robed. I held this in my mind as I robed up this morning. As I was praying about putting on the armour of God and preparing myself for worship while placing the robes on it proved to be quite a powerful experience.
It was an interesting experience which has left me with yet more things to mull over.
For now, however, its great to be able to tick off a SEITE task …. only another 14 assignments to go!
13 and out …
I have just returned from my 13th YFC staff conference which I think has been one of the best I’ve attended.
We were fortunate and blessed with some great teachers such as Ajith Fernando who has been national director of Sri Lanka YFC since 1976. Being a 42 year old who started secondary school in 1976, that level of faithfulness and commitment to a role struck me as being quite special.
Ajith was topped in my mind, however, by Paula Gooder who was only with us for 24 hours but had a refreshing way of unearthing greatt stuff from the bible. I could have listened to Paula for hours and was enthralled and challenged by what she brought out of the passage.
As always for me, though, Staff Conference is about the people. Conversations both with friends of long standing and new friends were great times and on one particular occasion while ‘sharing icons’ and chatting about ‘stuff’ that matters I lost track of time and did not get to bed until nearly 2am!
Highlights are too many to list (this entry would be very long!) but here is a feeble attempt:
chats in the sauna with various groups of people
drinking at the bar with the London possy and the South west crew
enjoying the company of the ‘Chislehurst massive’ and their sense of humour
that late night iconic conversation in the bar with Helen
coffee with Lucy
hearing dreams of others in their locations
various mealtime conversations with great people
the major highlight was simply spending time with so many wonderful YFC people who have become friends at some stage over the last 13/14 years.
For once there is a lowlight.
The 13th staff conference will be my last as I start a new ‘ordained’ role in September. As I even type those words of leaving YFC it produces tears in my eyes. It is not often that you get to live your dreams but that is what I have experienced over the last 14 years, and particularly in the last 3/4 years when I have quite seriously had the best job in the world working with ‘national’. I sit back and have an overwhelming feeling of gratitude with a strong sense of the sheer privilege it has been to be part of something so dynamic while serving very special people in their mission roles. I hope the next 6/7 months go quite slowly!
I shared on the last morning where ordination seems to be taking me in a pioneering/fresh expressions setting. It is an exciting opportunity on which I will write more later. For now, however, I need to get my head around leaving what I believe to be the best Christian youth agency in the country, probably the world. In many ways it is still a step that I don’t want to take, but I think (and hope) that I am right in believing that it’s a step that God wants me to take. My prayer is that this is a God idea and not simply a good idea.
So 14 years …. a large part of my life, and over half of my life in ‘ministry’ is all about to change. I look forward with a healthy and natural mix of fear, excitement and sadness with a hope that I will manage to stay close to at least some of those wonderful friends of the last 13 years.
