Faith and Identity

Yesterday I was at the NCVYS annual conference and AGM to launch Factor in Faith.
Factor in Faith is a document that aims to assist organisations in responding to the needs of young people of all faiths and culture, and also those of no faith. Factor in faith provides principles and recommendations to help make organisations that work with young people more faith and culturally sensitive.

It’s also about getting organisations to agree to support the following principles:
• build bridges between young people who have different faiths and cultures, including those who have no religious faith.
• make links with other organisations which are based on different faiths or cultures.
• create spaces where young people can talk freely about their faith, culture and beliefs.
• help young people to oppose prejudice and oppression based on a person’s faith or culture.
• do all it can to be sensitive to young people’s faiths and cultures.

I think these are great principles which should undergird all youth work and hope that organisations will support this.

During the day I had 2 opposing experiences that both excited and frustrated me. In the morning two people on the panel challeneged me positively ‘n my thinking. Aviva Dautch, of the Board of Deputies of Britsh Jews (amongst many other things) challenged whether we are a tolerant or a pluralistic society as, she felt, we interchange the terms in society.

Aviva suggested that a tolerant society is one that ‘tolerates’ faith differences withb the expectation that these faith differences will be restrained and be kept to a minimum. A pluralistic society on the other hand acknowledges that who you are makes a difference to society as your faith affects your identity and so cannot really be kept to a minimum, but rather needs to be embraced.

I sat and wondered what would Jesus wish to encourage. Of course, it is an impossible question to answer, but ‘to tolerate’ or ‘to embrace’ that is the question. Ethically, and on reading of scripture, tolerate is not a word that seems to fit.

Joy Madeiros of Oasis and Faithworks suggested that although society gets ‘religion’ it does not get ‘faith’. Madeiros stated that our identity influences inclusion; if we do not know what makes us distinctive and accept that how are we able to accept others? ‘Knowing our own identity is the root of inclusion’

Again, it was great to hear this because it means we should not dumb down who we are, but be distinctive in a loving and respectful way. Being who you are with integrity is the only way to achieve community of mutual love and respect.

During the afternoon I was in a group with a youth worker with a different way of working. That is great and fine and adds to diversity but I struggled with this, tradtional ‘professional’ view of youth work which was saying that we should not share anything of ourselves with young people so that we did not place any value, and so pressurem on a particular behaviour. I find this view simply ridiculous.

I am so tired of the view that we can influence young people to copy us. The belief that because I have a certain faith or belong to a certain political party will cause a young personto adopt that for themselves is just not real. This value-less style of youth work is all take from the youth worker with the young person expected to offer information but receive nothing in return. That is not building relationship or earning trust, that is clinical, cold information gathering and moving on.

If we believe we need to develop relationship and trust, that means we need to invest more than a program done to our young people; we need to invest our lives, not in an abuisve way that says ‘I am right and you should do the same’ but in a way that shows we do not live in a vlaue-less vacuum but that things do matter. Surely our role is to develop young people, which means we are to discuss, to encourage and YES to challenge!

I’m on a rant … I’ll stop and listen for any comments!

generosity

I have experienced a weekend of friendship of generosity.

On Saturday day time I met with people at the Blah day who were generous in their time and giving of not only themselves but their creativity.
Saturday night it was great to experience the generosity of good friends who invited us to a firework party.
In church yesterday I experienced the generosity again of more friends who gave me a hefty cheque which will help me masses in my quest for an applemac.

Experiencing generosity is wonderful and humbling all at the same time.

Through my experiences this weekend I have been challenged as to my personal generosity but I have seen and experienced the blessing of God. I have seen God move and work in the lives of others. I saw God at our lunch table in the eyes of our children as we shared what had happened over the weekend.

The generosity of God and his followers can sometimes be overwhelming.

Excellent day

The Blah day on fresh expressions within the catholic and contemplative traditions was an excellent day.

It was great to hear peoples stories and experience something of the diversity of this part of Fresh Expressions.

Some great little gems that I picked up throughout the day:

Simon Rundell:
‘our primary encounter with God is emotional and not intellectual – God needs to be experienced not proved for people to start the journey’
‘music, liturgy and ritual are like the trinity of worship and should be seamless’

Michael Volland:
‘we need to create space where God can do what he wants to do’
‘we search fir authentic community where people are honest with each other’

Ian Mobsby:
‘a rhythm of life was developed so that we can be both fluid and have depth; it helps to answer the question ‘how do we live?”

Philip Roderick

‘when tradition becomes static it ceases to be tradition’
‘travelling light, dwelling deep’

The day was superb and has given me a lot to mull over and think on. I did some of this on the train but need more time to reflect further – these are just little gems that I made not of and don’t wish to lose. These gems now need to be observed, turned around over and over again in the light so that I may grasp more of their beauty’

more later …

Saints Alive

I’ve just got back from preaching at Rochester Cathedral at tonight’s Saints Alive Celebration. I was really nervous about this, and don’t think I have been this nervous about talking for a long time. What I said seemed to go down OK – although one illustration may have raised a few eyebrows – lets just say I don’t think anyone else has used the word willy in the cathedral before! I did use it to illustrate misunderstandings rather than to shock – honest! I spoke around the subject of Hope and how can help others experience hope in our community.

The most exciting part of the evening was seeing our friend Lucy talk about Love Gillingham to 300 people in the cathedral. She was simply fantastic and when she finished there was spontaneous applause for her words. At the end a youth group leader asked her to go and speak to their youth group about Love Gillingham. This is really excellent – and seeing Lucy grow in confidence over the last few years has been a sheer joy as well as exciting to see.

After the service I went of with two great friends – the 2 Becky’s – for a drink at Wetherspoons. We came up with a plan to transform Medway … so watch this space!

London, coffee, golf, hooker, hope ….

Yesterday was a great but long day and varied in London.

I met Barry and Duncan in the cafe of the British Library to talk about Duncan’s vision for using golf as a mission tool with young people. The idea sounds great and I will be watching with interest to see how things progress. I hope they do as it could reach a whole new group of young people.

I spent a large part the rest of the day in the British Library and became a reader (a surprisingly quick and easy operation)so that I can do a bit off research now and again (‘ark at me ..LOL!). I wanted to take the opportunity to look at some original Richard Hooker stuff, but I had not realised that I needed to be a bit more organised. It’s a library – I thought I could just pop in and take it off the shelf … but the books are more protected than that. So I will plan my next visit better and pre-request my books. I’ve heard a few people talk about theoir views on Hooker recently, and I thought it would be good to see what he actually wrote before considering others views on him.

I spent my time in the library, instead, tussling with my thoughts on Hope for tonight’s talk. I kind of got somewhere but was more able to bring them together this morning. I hope I’m able to inspire and challenge – actually I’m weirdly quite nervous about speaking at Rochester cathedral.

Last night was also the start of our next module. So I have 2 essays out of the way, and now have two more lists of titles to consider … life must go on!

hope


I love this picture and Ben used it in the closing worship at the OPM day a couple of weeks ago. When in London last week I popped into Howies in Carnaby Street to see if I could get hold of it as a postcard (I also got a great t-shirt!), but they said feel free to download it from their web page and use it. Cool people!

Next week I am talking on ‘Hope’ at Rochester Cathedral and this may well weave it’s way in to what I have to say. I’m not quite sure what to speak about yet- there are many things going through my head, what we hope for, what should we hope for, what is THE Christian hope, (is there / should there be one in aparticular?)what is Hope 08 about, what did Jesus hope for, what does God hope for, are my hopes and my dreams one and the same …. and more!

Over the next few days I’ll need to narrow this down – but for now, Hope is a place somewhere between take off and landing.

reflections on the last few days

It’s been a busy few days and I need to get up early in the morning to travel to Weston Super Mare to meet up with some of our centres working in the south west.

But I wish to write some reflections on the past few days – I welcome the discipline of reflection and writing and have a concern that the less I do this, the less I force myself to stop and reflect.

The church planting conference last week was a great day and a good opportunity to catch up with some friends, and make new ones. I had some concerns which I shared in one of the workgroups that a ‘motivation’ given for church planting was that the church was in decline and so we needed to plant. I have a problem with that. I think we plant because God has started to do things. Motivation from a negative self preservation stance is always going to be artificial and humanaly motivated wheras the creation of new church as a response to God must be the only possible way forward.

My day in London was a time to meet with a variety of people. It was great to be able to meet up with Andrea Minichiello Williams, of LCF and Christian Concern, who I have not seen since we left Weymouth Grammar School some 24 years ago! Andrea was one of those people at school who was integral to my coming to faith. We shared stories and I left the meeting glad that we were able to find the time catch up and very conscious that Andrea needs the support of our prayers as she deals with many complex issues of todays society.

Afterwards I caught up with John Baxter Brown from Churches Togethr in England to chat a little about the Olympics and Greenbelt. Afterwards I was able to check out a coffee shop with Rachael before meeting SEITE friends to think about worship using a Labyrinth at our next residential.

Packed days … I love them!

The Last time …

The Tuesday just gone saw the start of my last year of SEITE.

I re-read that line with part relief mixed with a mass of disbelief. I need to ask where the last 2 years have gone, and can’t quite believe that the group of us that were questioning what on earth we had let ourselves in for 2 years ago in a dingy Medway hotel are now only 30 lectures away from ordination. Actually I am supposed to be sorting a placement for next term so I am only 20 lectures away!

Actually it was with some sadness on Sunday sitting in St Mark’s when a realisation came to me that I could be in a series of ‘last of’s’ now, which contrasts with my firsts of yesterday.

I sat and wondered ‘will this be my last September in St Marks?’. Then I started to think of it being my last Christmas there, my last Lent, Easter, summer, last this and last that. Even if I become part time OPM, or NSM OPM (?)it still marks a change and the end of one phase and the start of another.

Of course being the last of something also has the consequence of myself being involved in the first of something in a different capacity!

I love change. I have always loved changed. I can lose interest quickly. I have often wondered if I was a child now whether I would have been labelled ADHD. Sometimes I think I thrive on the challenge of change. But … it also scares me to think of starting again, of building new relationships, developing new ways of working, reaching new people, learning new things. It scares me thinking of handing total control back to God because I don’t know what I am doing.

It scares me, but today I have remembered a commitment I made soon after my 18th birthday – commitment to be follower of Jesus wherever that may take me; and today I acknowledge that I don’t know where that may be but I’m praying for the strength to be able to have the courage to grasp it!

A Day of Firsts

Today was Beth’s first day at her new secondary school – and she seems to have loved it. She acts all grown up, and it probably makes me feel a little older!

Today was my first day of working in the new YFC offices in Halesowen. It is an amazing building and a great environment to work in – if you want a meeting or conference area in the midlands area you should make use of this. I facilitated a meeting there today and the experience was really great and much better than some other locations that I could (but won’t) mention.

Today was the first time YFC got together our workers that work with children in junior schools. This was a bit of an historical event, looking at what our workers do and what we can be doing to support them in this unique role.

Today was the first time I met some people from other centres and new staff. I always count the meeting of new people as being a real highlight of my job. I find meeting and talking with people and hearing of their plans and visions helps me to deepen my understanding of God.

Today was also the first time new YFC training room was used!

A day of firsts can be very exciting!

what she say?

We had a great holiday.
Some of the funniest times, when we laughed a lot, arose from people misunderstandings.

One example comes from a campsite where the wardens sold home produced stuff. Joe came back one morning and asked what would be in Tom’s bags and could he have £1 to buy some as the sign outside the shop said ‘Bag of Tom’s £1’.

Another happened when we were hitching the caravan to move to another site. I asked Sarah to turn the stabiliser in the direction with the arrow pointing to ‘on’. She replied that there wasn’t a ‘on’ but there was a ‘no’ with an arrow next to it!

My final example comes from a child in Sarah’s class who had drawn a picture of a person. When Sarah asked what a part of the picture was the conversation went something like ‘that’s his willy’ ‘excuse me’ ‘his willy … you know, willies that you wear to jump in puddles when it is raining’!

A lot of confusion can occur when we mis-hear, see differently, or misunderstand what is happening. It strikes me that the church is in this position at the moment with people not quite grasping what is being said but immediately interpreting what they think is being said in the light of their own exprience.

For unity, for witness, to show the love of Christ we need to properly hear and understand ech other, which requires more than just listening.