Flat White

Today I met up with Rachael at Flat White which is a coffee shop that friend put me on to. I am a bit (well a massive bit) of a coffee snob, and Flat White settled my snobbishness entirely.

The coffee was fantastic (from Monmouth no less) and the atmosphere and ambiance of the place made drinking and reading here very comfortable.

I was early, which combined with Rachael being held up which caused me to notice a few things about Flat White. Here, in this little coffee shop in Soho is a thriving community. People seemed to know each other and would pop in and out which reminded me a little of an Orthodox service where people pop in and out as they wish.

There were some unique differences. If people ordered coffee they were asked for their name. When it was ready and the person brought the coffee to the table she or he called your name rather than ‘2 cappucinos and a latte!?’. There was a personal attention given to people that is often lacking in London with questions about how the day was going, would you like another coffee and so on. I also observed someone coming home from a trip and giving presents to the staff.

I loved this place which has a great atmosphere of welcome. The staff here understand something of hospitality and I left feeling the benefits of that understanding. I think it hit me more beause it was unexpected and I was not looking for it.

I’m not ging to bang on about the parallels between this and church as I think they will be pretty obvious to the few people that read here, but its interesting for me to note that I felt more welcomed, accepted and free here than I have felt in many churches I have visited. I pray that any community that I will be involved in in the future will be able to gain this hospititality understanding.

personal reflection on weekend

I’ve enjoyed the weekend.
I bumped into various people over the weekend and enjoyed brief chats which has been a cool thing to do.
One of this people was my local MP who I have known for many years and campaigned with quite a few times too. It was good to talk.
I’ve spent time with my children in various ways … visitng a new sports shop, going to a boot fair.
This weekend we welcomed Glen as an associate vicar to St Marks and enjoyed a bbq at the Vicarage garden.
It was also announced that Mike has accepted the the youth worker/chaplain post which I am incredibly excited about. This is such a fantastic appointment for both the church and the school. Mike and Mary were with us this morning as well.
This afternoon I had a good chat over a bottle of with with Gary – its been too long since we caught up.
An exciting weekend!

variety

My YFC role has a mass of variety which I love. I think it suits the mild ADHD symptoms that I have.

In my capacity as chair of governors of a school today I was involved in the interviewing for a chaplain. The day has been exciting and a pleasure to be part of.

I hope the church will be able to announce some news really soon.

Women bishops


We, lay members of the Church of England, call upon the House of Bishops wholeheartedly to support legislation for women bishops that is free from discrimination.

We are confident that acceptable non-statutory arrangements can be made for those who remain opposed to women’s ordained ministries.

We urge the bishops at General Synod strongly to support having women as bishops without further delay.

You can sign the petition (and in my opinion put right a massive injustice)here.

The kids have got it!

Over the last couple of days I have had some great theological conversations with my children. At the end of last week I was measured for and ordered robes and so I guess this has brought the ordination event in September to a sense of reality for all of us.

I’ve been impressed as I never thought my children were taking so much good stuff in. What I have been particularly excited about is that they have been asking challenging questions around what they have heard in church and whether ALL Christians believe that or just some Christians.

I was excited by this as it dawned on me that my children have grasped something lots of adults seem to take ages to grasp – that not all Christians necessarily believe exactly the same over various issues and that is it ok to think differently and still be a follower of Jesus Christ.

One of the many meanings of synagogue shared with me when I visited a local synagogue was ‘house of discussion’. This is something that I see as quite essential to church community – a place to discuss and churn over issues in the reality of life, rather than just listen to one opinion with no option to challenge or dialogue.

It’s great how children cans see through complicated stuff right to the stuff that really matters.

I don’t want to plant a church!

There is a lot of talk in fresh expressions and church generally about church planting. A idea, or a group of people, or whatever are taken from the sending church or churches and planting in a community with the aim of growing church. The idea does not grab me and actually leaves me feeling a little uncomfortable.

I know only a little about planting in an agricultural sense – but the little I do know leads me to think that church planting is not really what is needed. To plant in this sense essentially you need a seed of something already growing, or you need to take a cutting from a plant/tree or graft and plant, nourish, feed and water that seed.

The seed, cutting or whatever will then grow – but it will grow to look exactly like the plant it was taken from. The seed grows as a copy of the seed bearer. An apple seed will look like an apple tree, a carrot seed will produce a carrot plant, tomatoes produce tomatoes and so on and so on. This is good for crop and plant growing but I suggest it is not the only way for churches.

Not all, but many church plants, adopt the practices of their sending church. This is inevitable as the aim is to grow, and growth has to occur to be attractive. I suggest this is not good because it seems to take little account of the environment into which the ‘church seed’ is being planted. The expectation of what it will look like is pre-determined. The expectation that growth will occur is also a criterion for success.

To take a seed and plant it somewhere else will always produce an identical plant from which the seed bearing plant it has come. This is simple genetics. It’s true the seed may grow into a better or worse specimen health-wise depending on the environment into which it is planted – but still the species will be the same. Planting is replication.

I don’t want to plant a church – I want to be involved in birthing a church!

I think there is a difference, particularly if we look to the human birth process – and I thought about this while I looked at my three wonderful children. My three children are great and, like most children born of the same parents, they display similarities but they are incredibly unique in their makeup and actions as well.

In the human birth process, seeds grow and the child that is then born and develops is recognisable as coming from the parents (seed bearers!), and is recognisable as being related to the siblings, but each is a unique creation. That uniqueness comes from the effect on the environment upon them both while they were developing in the womb and since they have been born, it also comes from their reactions to what is around them, it also comes from how the parents have related to them at the time, it also comes from choices they make, relationships they have, things they like and dislike or try or avoid – the variables are massive.

The person created is unique to the relationship and reaction to the particular environmental variables at those particular points in time.

To develop authentic church community I believe we need to think a lot more about the birthing process than the planting process. This will involve us more in the mystery of church by allowing the Holy Spirit to shape rather than us trying to shape, determine and control church ourselves. To birth a church we need to bring the seeds together and then allow God through the Holy Spirit to do the creative work that God does.

What particularly strikes me here is that with birthing there are no guarantees but with planting there are great expectations. Seeds are planted and growth is expected as a sign quite quickly. Many wanting to give birth can tell stories of various attempts, of the need for lots of patience and essentially there is no correct way of ensuring that the birthing process can start – the conditions may all be ‘textbook correct’ but sometimes still nothing happens – and yet other times something does.

There are pointers to church birth in both the New Testament and the early church which both surprised and excited me. Gregory the Great, in his work On the Pastoral Charge, (quoted in Cocksworth & Brown’s Being a Priest Today) used the analogy of ‘mother’ to describe a priest. He speaks of the capacity that mothers have to give birth and to nurture life. Paul refers to being in the ‘pains of childbirth’ in Galatians 4:19 and in 1 Thessalonians again he uses imagery of a mother feeding and caring for her children. This imagery is helpful as I consider the role of ‘priest’ in this setting.

Birthing and caring obviously involve a significant giving of self – involvement in the birthing of a church will be costly and involve significant energy, time and nurture – but the end result is quite a beautiful creation.

great weekend and job advert

We had a great weekend. We did not make it as far as London as the rest of the family are suffering from whatever viral thing I returned home with, but we went to Bluewater to watch a film (Step Up 2 – which was a good street dance predictable but very watchable movie) before grabbing a meal at Tootsies and then returning home in time to chill out the evening with Dr. Who!

The weekend has been active – with the St Mark’s APCM yesterday and I’m glad to see top people got elected to the church council (something I won’t have to be involved in as a pioneer!) as I’m quite sure St Mark’s is entering an exciting stage in it’s life.

Below is a great job being advertised in Youthwork magazine at the moment working with Sarah and in the school I am chair of governors at – please pass it around your circles.

Church Youthworker/ School Chaplain
Organisation St. Mark’s Church, Gillingham
Salary £25k +
Location Kent
Closing Date Fri 9 May 2008
Description

St. Mark’s Church, Gillingham, Kent Are looking to appoint a Church Youthworker/ School Chaplain
(50% – 50%)
Starting in September 2008

– innovative post for an experienced and qualified Youthworker
– 25K plus for right candidate – 3 yr minimum contract
Contact Details Contact: The Administrator, St Mark’s Parish Office, The Old Vicarage, Vicarage Road, Gillingham, Kent ME7 5JA
Email: info@stmarkschurchgillingham.co.uk
Tel: 01634 570489
Closing date for applications 9th May 2008

Living Hope


Today was an awesome day.
Loads of great conversations.
Lots of surprises over peoples creative abilities.
Lots of connections made between heaven and earth.
You can see my photos from Living Hope here.

amazing art!

I am amazed, challenged, humbled, moved, excited and generally awestruck.

A large part of today we have been setting up Living Hope and I am massively grateful to the artists and to the very kind people that gave their time in the setting up.

I am struck by both the variety and creativity of the stations that people have brought. I’m not going to say too much here (that would spoil the surprise for those coming)but I will post some pics in the next few days.

I’m really looking forward to tomorrow!

Living Hope


We are trying something new at St Marks this coming Saturday, which will be Easter Eve. I have taken a rough ‘stations of the resurrection’ outline and asked various individuals and groups to interpret a particular biblical scene of the resurrection and illustrate it through a media of their choice.

I have been impressed and surprised by the take-up and there is going to be a great range of creativity on display. Someone is producing a cartoon image, someone else a poem (which I had the pleasure of reading today and is superb), another person is writing a song, someone else painting … the list continues. Individuals, friends and family groups are being creative.

If you are in the Medway area why not pop in this Saturday – or if you think you would like to contribute please feel free to get in touch as it’s never too late!